We’ve all been there… We’ve all struggled with this… And trust me, you’re not a human if you didn’t do some stupid things after a bad breakup. Here are some of my best tips to surviving heartache -
1. REFRAIN YOUR EMOTIONS FROM SOCIAL MEDIA
Alright guys…. We all understand you are hurt and clearly all the aspects of your breakups and reasoning, but COME ON. Putting all of your emotions all over twitter is just embarrassing – trust me. It happens to everyone and even I have been in the position quite a few times. It feels amazing and pretty darn okay in the moment when your emotions are overflowing and you want that little cheating piece of crap to be made a fool, but really… Either no one cares, or they do and are just laughing at you. Yeah, you will definitely get some sympathy. But go to your friends, not your randoms.
2. THROW AWAY EVERYTHING THAT REMINDS YOU OF THEM
It’s so hard, right!? Ugh, I know. There may have been some bad times, but all of the memories you keep of them and sweatshirts, movie tickets, etc. are good memories. IT DOESN’T MATTER – throw that shit out. They will make you think about all of those good times and that’s the last thing you need!!! Dwelling over the past won’t get you anywhere, honey. Throw that trash out along with him. And don’t try to give it back to him either (don’t follow Sarah Silverman after her break up with Jimmy Fallon….), just put it in the trash. It will not only give you a great feeling of satisfaction of sealing it in your past, but giving him his things back just allows him to have more things that he probably wants or needs! No no no, lets let him suffer a little.
3. AVOID LOVE MOVIES, SONGS, ETC.
Don’t fantasize about the could haves, would haves, should haves. They aren’t. Throw on your favorite pair of sexy jeans and listen to some hot mama music. Feel sexy and get some confidence back. Here are some of my favorite tracks -
Break Your Heart Right Back – Ariana Grande
Everybody Knows (Douchebag) -Dustin Tavella
I Hate Boys – Christina Aguilera
Vanity – Christina Aguilera
Dirty Talk – Wynter Gordon
Motivation – Kelly Rolland
Hell On Heels – Pistol Annies
Flawless – Beyonce
Fancy – Iggy
Partition – Beyonce
And many more out there… just do some digging (;
4. DISTRACTIONS ARE KEY
All of those boys from back then when you were single, hit ‘em up ladies. Some innocent attention will never hurt! It’s an amazing distraction, flirting. Go on a few dates! Who cares! A few texting buddies is the perfect way to boost confidence and create a distraction. Let them tell you how beautiful you are! Let them want you and chase you! Hard to get. Which leads us to our next major heartbreak no-no……
5. DON’T GO BOY CRAZY
Yes ladies, I know revenge is ever so sweet, but don’t do that to yourself. It really, really won’t help – just maybe make you look a bit desperate. Stay out of the bedroom with your rebounds. Let them make you feel sexy and want you, but don’t give it away. Keep them on a leash, always wanting but never getting. Then your distractions won’t fade (;
6. NIGHTS OUT WITH THE GIRLS
FORGET THE GUYS! You need some girl time. Put on some sexy heels, show those legs, and get your dancing on. Oh, and the shots too.
7. RETAIL THERAPY
Ahhhhh, yes. Being upset and using “retail therapy” is always my favorite excuse to spend money. We may not all be able to be the Carrie Bradshaw’s or Blair Waldorf’s of the world, but spending a tiny bit more than normal is A-OK!
8. TALK IT OUT…. A LITTLE.
Your friends are always (supposed to be) there for you. Talk, cry, laugh, express your feelings and look for advice from them… Letting it all out is good, great actually. But there’s a stopping point. Not everyone wants to hear your love drama every time you’re with them, the entire time. After the first week of being a single woman, don’t have daily rambles about the breakup, him, or his new bait. It’s not good for your friendships or your mentality. Put it behind you. The less you talk about it, the more it will disappear. Dwelling is never good. And don’t feel like a little kid if you need to let it out and write in a journal – it always works like a charm for me :)
9. JUNK FOOD THERAPY
Get all of your favorite foods – screw your diet for a day or two. Oh, and the gym! Let yourself relax and embrace all of your favorite delights. But just remember to get yourself together after a day or two… Lets not create any bad habits to mask the hurt…
10. DO YOUR FAVORITE THINGS… AND TRY NEW ONES.
Don’t go to your exes and your favorite restaurants anymore… Those are in the past (for now). Try the new place on the block, the place he never wanted to try, go hiking, take a new class at the gym, try horseback riding. Get creative! Embrace all of your favorite hobbies and try new things.
Hope this helps. Laugh a little more xo